Confession time. I lost it this week! I felt like a 2 year-old throwing a major tantrum. My anger boiled, churned and finally spewed like a raging volcano that had been simmering and couldn’t hold it’s contents any longer!
It hadn’t been one isolated incident that had pushed me over the edge to the point of eruption but a string of many. Sleepless nights, unprocessed grief, COVID restrictions, confusion about what direction my life was to take. And most of all…lack of a time for silence and reflection. Something that my introverted soul needs to recharge and remain calm.
Most mornings, I use my early morning walk as a disconnect from the high paced world that we live in. I enjoy the peace that dawn brings, a break from the hustle and bustle of our high tech society. I take this time to connect and reboot. Research shows that combining solitude with a walk in nature causes brain growth in the hippocampus region, resulting in better memory. Any help I can gain in the memory department is greatly appreciated.
Most mornings, it’s just me and nature. It’s like stepping into another realm. A peaceful, insightful, calming realm. A chance to go within.
This week has been different. I had ventured out with earbuds and a book on tape. My quiet, commune with thoughts or mindful reflection and nothingness had been replaced with an attempt to gain some knowledge and understanding. I thought it was a fair trade off. I was wrong. I needed my reflection time more than I knew.
When we take time to turn to our thoughts and go inward, we are able to tune out the noise of daily living. Even if only for a short period of time, disconnection is very beneficial. Silence allows us to turn our focus inward allowing us to escape from the chaos of the world and tap into our inner strengths and powers. It allows us to refuel and refresh. When we are able to do this we are able to focus better. I don’t know about you but when I’m able to focus better, The demons of frustration and anger are soothed like a hungry baby with a bottle.
Steven Aitchison stated the following about silence, “Our ego is temporarily switched off or at least made to be quiet for a bit, and we start to see the real world as it should be. Our thoughts get in the way of our reality sometimes and we don’t see the beauty of the world around us. When there is silence there is time for introspection and to allow your true-self to speak, not the ego, not the conscious mind but the true-self connected to the flow of energy around us.”
Our modern world is filled with distractions. How many times a day do you check your phone, emails, Facebook, Instagram? You may be surprised to know that research shows that people check their devices every 6.5 minutes! That’s crazy! Our alone time is being taken over by social media and outside demands.
Is it any wonder that our stress levels are rising? How many of us always have our cell phone in tow morning, noon and night? We panic if we can’t find them. We are always connected to the outside world. Maybe it’s time to disconnect from the outside and connect to the inside world. I’m not saying that you have to disconnect forever, but wouldn’t it be nice to walk away for a period of time?
In an article entitled, The Importance of Silence, By Sharing Life’s Moments, this simple statement was made. “We live in a world where we are constantly told we have to be productive in every minute of every day. The reality is, we don’t.”
When we take time to step away from the demands of life and step away from the outer voices and into the inner knowing, problem solving often becomes easier. We make decisions from a place of calm not a sea of churning lava.
Silence allows you to go deep into your inner knowing and connect with your own unique soul. It allows you a chance to get to know who you are and what you stand for. What your life purpose is. To find out what makes you tick. It gives you a chance to tap into your creative mind. Why not take some time to sit and commune with the person who knows what’s best for you…you! You just might find some great wisdom buried in the sounds of silence of your inner being.
There have been numerous studies that show when we are alone and spend time in silence that we will engage more with our own minds. When we talk to ourselves we often find the answers to the questions that we are asking. We listen to ourselves better, allowing us to retrieve the answers that are meant for us. Allowing them to come forth.
Silence assists you in becoming calmer. Studies have shown that people who consistently spend time alone and in solitude tend to be calmer. It also assists with a higher sense of emotional clarity and calmness. Your feathers aren’t as easily ruffled.
Silence is not only golden but it is essential. In her book, Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy, Sarah Ban Breathnach writes, “Too many of us approach time alone as if it were frivolous, expendable luxury rather than a creative necessity.” We deserve to take the time to feed our souls, to tap into our unique knowing. Make a time of silence and solitude a priority in your life.
I would like to encourage you to find some time for solitude somewhere in your hectic life. Take a break from the noise, the endless tasks, the constant demands. Give yourself permission to step off of your fast paced, treadmill life for a moment of solitude to reflect, ponder and go within.
Turn off the tv and blaring music. Disconnect from your electronics and social media for a period of time. Take a walk in nature, sit in a garden or quiet park. Practice some form of meditation and connect with the sounds of silence.
By doing so you may find that you don’t have to go on a hunt for a proverbial virgin to toss into the angry volcano that is churning and threatening eruption. The silence and the answers that lay within, just might do the trick instead.